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How can it be that a trauma, an unhappy past or a significant loss or change can play such a large role in our lives today?  Why can’t we just “let it go” and move on as we are often urged to do?
Some of this confusion is about the word trauma itself.
The word trauma brings to mind the big disasters and tragedies of life such as witnessing death, major accidents, torture, kidnappings, and sexual or physical abuse or assault.  These events are recognizable without question as trauma. These are often referred to as “big T” traumas. It is not hard to see how these can still have a negative impact years later.
Are there then “small t traumas”?  What makes something a trauma? Can they have lasting effects as well?
According to META-Medicine®** a trauma occurs in a UDIN moment. UDIN stands for
Unexpected
Dramatic
Isolating
No Strategy.
Often in the UDIN moment we have a freeze response, and a belief or unconscious pattern of behavior is created or reinforced at that moment.  Although we may be unaware of them, it is often these beliefs or patterns of behavior that keep us stuck or hold us back from being all that we can be.
We can see how the big events mentioned above meet these criteria.  Let’s look at another situation (more of a “small t trauma”) that an outside observer may think of as insignificant, but one that could have an enduring effect on a young child.
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4-year-old Mary is joyfully drawing a beautiful picture with her brand new colourful markers, as a gift for Mommy.  She smiles as she anticipates giving this gift to her mother.  Mary hasn’t noticed that her markers have also stained the expensive tablecloth underneath, yet upon entering the room, that is the first thing Mom notices.  A reprimand, a scolding, an angry look, or perhaps even a spanking is the reaction.
If we look at this closely, we can see this as a UDIN moment for Mary although she may not look back on this as a trauma or even remember it at all.  However, as an adult when Mary thinks of doing something nice for someone or giving a gift she may be filled with self doubt about how her gesture will be received. She wonders why some people can be so confident in doing or giving the right thing while she is not.
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Bereavements and other losses or changes can also stop us in our tracks with a myriad of debilitating emotions, such as feelings of abandonment, loneliness, being overwhelmed, resentment, guilt, regret, shock, fear, anger and confusion about identity.
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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can lessen or eliminate the charge of negative emotional feelings that hold us back. Working with a practitioner who will help you find the core trauma(s) or event(s) that created the limiting belief, pattern or negative emotion and working together to release it can open a gateway to new possibilities.   

Matrix Reimprinting*, an advanced form of EFT, can go further by changing the negative learning that the subconscious took on in these past events, weakening or stopping the unconscious behaviour that stems from these traumas, both “big T” and/or  “small t”.

Please feel free to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute consultation. We can look as how life is playing out for you, what your goals and concerns are and if the approach that I offer is a good fit for you.

References
*Interested in finding out more about Matrix Reimprinting ?
Talk to me or explore these two resource areas.
1-     For an explanation from an epigenetic and quantum science point of view, after clicking on this link, http://www.matrixreimprinting.com/, scroll down to the heading called Free Resources and download the MATRIX REIMPRINTING QUICKSTART MANUAL PDF.
2-     For a down to earth explanation of how Matrix Reimprinting can tackle the trauma, or UDIN moment, I invite you to watch this video of Karin Davidson as she is interviewed on the EFT Hub.  Click on the link below and scroll down until you see the video called "Matrix Reimprinting and Meta-Medicine with Karin Davidson". http://matrixreimprintingus.com/videos/

**For more information on Meta medicine, start here http://whyamisick.org/richard-flook/
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